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eing open and honest about things like sexual orientation
and gender identity can be challenging and, in certain situations,
potentially dangerous. Coming out was one of the most difficult
and emotionally draining things I have experienced.
I remember the day back in 1998 that I realized I was gay.
While sitting in my social studies class, I thought to myself, “Mr. P.
is really cute. He's a good looking guy.” I also remember thinking
to myself, “That's normal, right?” I struggled with these feelings.
None of my classmates expressed similar feelings towards the
same sex. Nearly 20 years later, the memory of that moment is
still with me.
Despite being terrified and conflicted, I told my parents
not long after I experienced those feelings. Both of my parents
were confused and upset, but not condemning.
After years of battling depression and suicide attempts, I
accepted my sexuality. I came out again at 19. My second coming
out was easier, but still difficult. The support I received from my
parents, sister, cousin, and those around me helped me fully
accept myself.
After recently speaking to my mother, she expressed the
importance of educating parents, because education is key to
understanding and acceptance.
Todd A. Reazor
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